it’s not something I need, I know it’s part of his submission. I’m not sex averse, so I focus on him in different ways that don’t involve me, if that makes sense.
Reading through it several times, I replied back.
BoredCollegeGuy: I think it does. I appreciate you sharing about your life. I’m not the most knowledgeable about sexuality in general, but from what I’ve read ace or possibly demi will probably end up describing me best. My boy is very patient and seems content with what we’ve done so far, but as we move deeper into our relationship, I want to know the best way to handle more intimate things that will end up getting a physical reaction from him.
Okay, so the wording was a bit vague, but talking about Morgan’s erections in plainer language didn’t seem appropriate.
Thankfully, AceDaddio didn’t seem to mind.
AceDaddio: It’s a legitimate issue. The best way to handle it is to lay it all out. The first time my boy brought it up we talked and I explained how I felt and what I was comfortable with. He appreciated not having to guess what I wanted and what would make me uncomfortable. If you’ve been talking about everything else so far in your relationship, then just go over it as simply and plainly as you can.
Before I could respond, another message popped up.
AceDaddio: There are also a lot of online resources for people who are ace or who have questions about that kind of thing. There are a lot of people that identify as ace. If you have questions about it there are a lot of places that can help.
It took me a minute to put together a reply that didn’t sound flippant.
BoredCollegeGuy: Thanks. I’ve started looking through some of them but it wasn’t something I was really focused on until my relationship with my boy started. It was somewhat unexpected so now it’s time to look at myself so I can answer questions that are bound to come up.
AceDaddio: Remember that there’s no one right way to have any kind of BDSM relationship, including being a Daddy to a little. They’re generally more focused on how you make them feel and about how you accept their little side than sex, so figure out what you’re comfortable with and talk it out. Nothing will kill this kind of relationship faster than silence.
Having read similar opinions on various platforms, I was forced to agree with him.
BoredCollegeGuy: I have to admit that’s not my default state, but I’m learning and he’s good about asking what I feel and what I want as well.
The other Dom replied quickly.
AceDaddio: LOL yeah mine loves knowing he’s making me happy too, but he’s a handful. Looking after their Doms is as important to them as it is to us though. Keeping everyone happy just looks different for us than it might be for other people in a BDSM relationship.
I found myself nodding to his response as I typed out mine.
BoredCollegeGuy: I’m starting to realize how many ways relationships like this can look. I just want to make sure I’m doing my best to give my boy what he needs.
His words back made me chuckle.
AceDaddio: Don’t forget his Daddy is just as important as your boy.
Smiling, I replied.
BoredCollegeGuy: I’ll do my best on that one, but it’s not in my nature.
Ace’s response struck me as very spot on.
AceDaddio: Welcome to being a Dom. Most are wired to focus more on their subs than they are themselves. But without balance things get fucked up, so let him find a way to take care of you too. Okay and my little troublemaker is now awake and looks mischievous so got to go see what he’s up to. Have a good day.
With a quick goodbye, I closed the message and went back to studying the posts and the various comments. Ace was right. Each Dom had a different view, but there were a lot of base similarities that I could relate to.
A few posts about clothes had me clicking on a link to a store I’d looked at previously. The shirts and onesies looked almost like regular clothing I’d seen around campus except for the snaps on the onesies and the patterns on some of the shirts.
The footie pajamas and other clothes were much more obviously little, but I found most of them to be very cute. Scrolling through the site, I picked out a few things I thought would be nice for Morgan, including several onesies