It Sounded Better in My Head - Nina Kenwood Page 0,2
unicorn on it. I even have a name perfectly suited for a pretty child: Natalie.
Then, puberty.
Puberty is treated by adults like it’s a big joke. Any mention of it seems to be accompanied by humour and knowing smiles. There’s talk of voices breaking and hair growing. If I thought much about it at all beforehand, I assumed I would start wearing a bra and have to figure out how a tampon works. But puberty, as it turns out, was an assault. My body changed fiercely and terribly, and I didn’t know how to handle it.
I went from being a straight-up-and-down stick figure to a scribble of hips, stomach, breasts, thighs and stretch marks. I didn’t even know stretch marks were a thing. I truly did not know they existed until they appeared on my body. When I googled them, all the information was geared towards pregnant women. I felt like a freak, with angry red lines slashing across my hips, lower back and down my inner thighs, like a graffitied wall.
Once, a girl from my class saw them when I was changing for PE, and she said, ‘What happened?’ and pointed at my hip, and I said, ‘My cat scratched me,’ and she widened her eyes with horror but she believed me because that’s what my stretch marks looked like—savage claw marks from a monster cat.
But the stretch marks were nothing compared with the pimples. A regular scattering of pimples at first, and then more, and more. Then pimples that turned, almost overnight, into deep, cystic acne. Thick, hard, welt-like lumps formed under my skin on my back, shoulders, neck and face. That’s not a cool story, or a tragedy that people want to hear about. It’s gross. I was gross. I woke up thinking that every day for a long time.
My period was heavy and really painful, and managing it felt like a full-time job. I obsessively checked my school dress, my bedsheets, my underwear, my jeans, the couch, the car seat, the train seat—anywhere there could be a hint of what was happening to me. I looked at the back of myself in any reflective surface I could find. I was paranoid about leaving a trace of evidence. The pimples on my shoulders would sometimes burst and leave stains on my top. I was messy, leaking, uncontained.
My body was a shameful disaster. I was too embarrassed to go outside unless I absolutely had to. No, it was worse than that. I was too embarrassed to exist. I hunched down and inwards, trying to hide every part of me. I hated how much space I took up, because I got taller too. I was huge and hulking. I felt like everywhere I went, I was being seen and noticed in a way I didn’t want to be seen and noticed. Even now, on my very best skin days, I’m uncomfortable with people looking at my face. Eye contact makes me feel exposed.
At thirteen, fourteen, fifteen, going to school was hard. Friday night would arrive and I would be filled with such relief. I would unclench and lie on my bed and breathe deeply and reassure myself: I don’t have to go outside or see anyone other than my parents for the next two whole days. The outside world was a place where I was constantly on edge, waiting for someone to look at or comment on my bad skin. I always carried a book with me so I had an excuse to be looking down, and I rarely spoke up in class so that no one would have a reason to look at me directly. I grew my hair very long and let it fall over my face whenever I could. I would part it on different sides depending on which half of my face needed more covering. I avoided sitting in the brightest part of a room. I watched hundreds of hours of YouTube makeup tutorial videos.
I would never look in a mirror in the school bathrooms, because I didn’t want to meet anyone’s eyes, but I carried a little compact mirror in my pocket all the time so when I was alone in the toilet cubicle I could check my face slowly, carefully and without shame and see how bad it was. I would smuggle concealer and foundation in too, and reapply it constantly throughout the day.
Acne hurts. No one talks about how painful it is. Well, no one talks about it, at all. My face, my