“That doesn’t change the fact that I loved you more than anything, and I couldn’t live without you, because when you came along, you brought joy with you, and joy was something I never expected to feel, ever again. It didn’t matter that you weren’t mine, and I knew that if your mother went to Italy to be with Anton, she would take you with her, and I couldn’t let that happen. And that day in the hospital, I did want to die. I wasn’t trying to manipulate her. I swear it. Later, when I couldn’t forgive her, I told myself that she deserved to pay a price for what she did. She was unfaithful and she’d had an affair, and because of that, I ended up like this.” He looked away and grew quiet. “I lost everything. I became a burden to everyone.”
“You weren’t a burden.”
“Yes, I was. And I tried to forgive her. Honest, I did. Year after year. But I just couldn’t, so I did whatever I had to do to make sure I didn’t lose you. Especially not to Anton.”
“But I wouldn’t have left you,” I assured him, feeling my anger rise up again and fly into the open. It had found a path through the dense forest of my love and compassion. “Even if I had met Anton, you would have always been my dad. I just wish you had been honest with me. I wish you had helped me to meet him. He was my biological father, and he wanted to meet me, but you wouldn’t allow it, and now I’ll never get that chance. And I never got to know my half brother and sister either. If Anton hadn’t died, I still wouldn’t know about them. How can I ever forgive you for that, Dad?”
I began to weep with the agony of learning that the man I believed would do anything for me had denied me the greatest gift of all—the gift of his trust in my love for him. And the gift of my biological father’s love. For the first time I saw, with perfect clarity, the full extent of my father’s wounds beyond the physical—the deeper ones that had weakened his soul at a very young age when his own mother had deserted him. Then his wife had intended the same thing. I saw the world through his eyes, as a place where love was a destructive force, where it left behind a twisted, mangled wreckage, which was how he viewed his life.
Dad watched me with concern. “Please, pumpkin, don’t cry. I can’t bear to see you cry.”
I looked up and wiped away my tears. “Then why did you do what you did?”
A part of me hated him for what he had kept from me. I wanted to lash out at him.
Another part of me pitied him for the love he had not let into his life because he feared its destructiveness. He had been possessive, distrustful, and jealous.
“I’m sorry,” he said. “I knew it was wrong, but I was afraid of what would happen if you knew. And now I’m afraid I’m going to lose you anyway.”
Seeing the total unqualified despair in his eyes, I forced myself to reach out and take hold of his hand, because I didn’t want to become like him—a person with a soul that couldn’t forgive. A person with a heart that couldn’t trust in love or have faith in a loved one’s loyalty. I wanted to see the best in him. I needed to believe that he cared for me and that he could put my happiness, for once, above his own.
“I never expected to live this long,” he continued to explain, his voice breaking into a sob. “I hated being a burden to you, but I thought you and your mother would be free of me eventually. I always expected that you would meet Anton one day, after I was gone. I expected it from the beginning, so every new day with you was a blessing. I stole what happiness I could because I thought it would be brief. That was my mistake. I waited too long. If only I had known how long it would take for me to die, I might have acted differently.”
“Please don’t say that, Dad. I never wanted you to die.” I stared down at our joined hands and tried to see through my anger to what he had just confessed. I thought about his fears and