a safe-deposit box at the bank. Handling those details took most of the day. Later, we shared a final bowl of chicken noodle soup and soft-cooked vegetables for dinner before I brought him to the extended care facility. I unpacked his things, decorated the room with items I thought he’d want, and placed a dozen years’ worth of the Greysheet on the floor beneath his desk. But it wasn’t enough, and after explaining the situation to the director, I went back to the house again to collect even more knickknacks, all the while wishing I knew my dad well enough to tell what really mattered to him.
No matter how much I reassured him, he remained paralyzed with fear, his eyes tearing me apart. More than once, I was stricken with the notion that I was killing him. I sat beside him on his bed, conscious of the few hours remaining before I had to leave for the airport.
“It’s going to be okay,” I said. “They’re going to take care of you.”
His hands continued to tremble. “Okay,” he said in a barely audible voice.
I felt the tears beginning to form. “I want to say something to you, okay?” I drew breath, focusing my thoughts. “I just want you to know that I think you’re the greatest dad ever. You had to be great to put up with someone like me.”
My dad didn’t respond. In the silence, I felt all those things I’d ever wanted to say to him forcing their way to the surface, words that had been a lifetime in the making.
“I mean it, Dad. I’m sorry about all the crappy things I put you through, and I’m sorry that I was never here for you enough. You’re the best person I’ve ever known. You’re the only one who never got angry with me, you never judged me, and somehow you taught me more about life than any son could possibly ask. I’m sorry that I can’t be here for you now, and I hate myself for doing this to you. But I’m scared, Dad. I don’t know what else to do.”
My voice sounded hoarse and uneven to my own ears, and I wanted nothing more than for him to put his arm around me.
“Okay,” he finally said.
I smiled at his response. I couldn’t help it.
“I love you, Dad.”
To this he knew exactly what to say, for it had always been part of his routine.
“I love you, too, John.”
I hugged him, then rose and brought him the latest issue of the Greysheet. When I reached the door, I stopped once more and faced him.
For the first time since he’d been there, the fear was almost gone. He held the paper close to his face, and I could see the page shaking slightly. His lips were moving as he concentrated on the words, and I forced myself to study him, hoping to memorize his face forever.
It was the last time I ever saw him alive.
Seventeen
My dad died seven weeks later, and I was granted an emergency leave to attend the funeral.
The flight back to the States was a blur. All I could do was stare out the window at the formless gray of the ocean thousands of feet below me, wishing I could have been with him in his final moments. I hadn’t shaved or showered or even changed my clothes since I’d heard the news, as if going about my daily life meant that I fully accepted the idea that he was gone.
In the terminal and on the ride back to my house, I found myself growing angry at the everyday scenes of life around me. I saw people driving or walking or heading in and out of stores, acting normal, but for me nothing seemed normal at all.
It was only when I got back to the house that I remembered I’d turned off the utilities almost two months earlier. Without lights, the house seemed strangely isolated on the street, as if it didn’t quite belong. Like my dad, I thought. Or me, I realized. Somehow that thought made it possible to approach the door.
Wedged in the door frame of our house, I found the business card of a lawyer named William Benjamin; on the back, he claimed to represent my dad. With phone service disconnected, I called from the neighbor’s house and was surprised when he showed up at the house early the following morning, briefcase in hand.
I led him inside the dim house, and he took a seat